It doesn’t have to be grand.

When I was younger, I used to believe that people should always be successful. I should always do my best and produce favorable outcomes. However, as I grow older, I’ve realized that my priorities are changing (yes, progressive tense).

I graduated grade school and high school with flying colors. When I was in college, I joined different organizations, and did some basic writing freelancing gigs on top of my commitment as a volunteer-servant in our community. My weekends were always full. My weekends were always spent in the church.

Before I graduated college, I set my goals. I should graduate at 20 years old. At 25, I should finish my MA degree in my dream school. My goals area always revolving in my career. I have forgotten about myself. That person outside the academe, that person outsider her career, and that person before everything else.

Who am I without those affiliations? Am I still myself? Am I forced to do what society expects me to do?

I’ve entertained these questions because lately, I’ve been thinking about a very critical decision. I reviewed my goals, priorities, and needs. And you know what, everything has changed.

My goals before are not my priorities now. I choose to spend my energy to what matters most.

I believe it’s totally fine. People change, and so our decisions. We live life differently. We all have different origins, environment, and experience. When our goals are not yet achieve, we should not falter. Everything REALLY happens for a reason. We should know that reason to move forward.

Here’s what I’ve realized after working for more than 10 years (including my freelancing days).

1. Life does not have to be always grand. Some people use social media to post achievements and be quiet in their in-betweens. I am guilty of it and I am sorry, self. I’ve realized that I can still find something special out of ordinary experiences and events in my life. There is beauty in simplicity. Reading Japanese self-help book made me understand more about this belief.

2. Sometimes, we do not achieve our goals in our own timeline and that is OKAY. There are external factors, too. We don’t have the control to everything. When the time comes, we will surely achieve our goals. We just have to take time to pause and review, and keep going. Who knows? Our time will surely come.

3. Never stop learning. In life, no matter what you do, you should be open to learning new skills or thoughts. Ideas and concepts must be learned to. Life has changed rapidly, and so are other ideologies. If people refuse to accept new facts and stick to the old and not updated one, then it would be really problematic.

Here’s my photo reminding you to celebrate new experience and embrace new life lessons. You are capable! Always!

What is something that you’ve realized lately? I hope you find life meaningful despite of your issues.

May God bless you, friends.


Author: kimderla

Educator. Writer. God's Servant.

One thought on “It doesn’t have to be grand.”

  1. Super relate, Kim! At 32 years old, my goals and priorities compared to the past have changed massively too. Thank you for this, I was reminded to step back and realize the beauty of simplicity. 🙂

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