Fear is normal.

Fear is Normal.

While talking to lola about a decision that I am about to take (or maybe not), I realize that fear is normal. Existing in this challenging world could trigger fear. Comprehensive examinations, research papers, and oral presentations are also fearful.  Going out of your comfort zone could be fearful. Everything could be fearful! Shookt. Even, love? Haha.

If there’s an important thing to remember about these things, it’s this: Fear is based on your perspective.

Fear, when taken positively, becomes a challenge.

Fear, when taken negatively, becomes a threat.

Fear, when consumed, stops you from learning.

Fear, once ruled your life, prevents you from growing.

Fear could take away important learning that you could ever have. Not going out because it might rain may stop you from being productive. Not chasing your dream job could also let you get stuck to a mediocre life. Not following your passion may take away a part of your life. There’s a lot to lose when you let fear rule over your life.

Still, fear is a sign of being mindful about the possibilities that could happen. It could be a warning or a soft reminder before making decisions. It could always give you more options to choose from. Fear can only mean that you are a normal human being—that you get scared about the things that might happen.

Okay lang matakot, pero sana lumaban ka pa rin.

Right now, I am at the point in my life when I am also fearful of the things that could happen when I say yes to a big project. It’s my first time. But, I also fear what if I miss this project because of this fear? Wahhh. I do not know.

What I do now is to pray for it. I may have plans but the Lord has better plans for me. I know that God will never give me challenges that I couldn’t accomplish. I always pray to God to increase my faith and to increase my super power to do things for him.

Nakakatakot, pero sana kayanin kapag and’yan na.

Isipin mo ‘yung mga bagay na meron ka na sana ngayon kung hindi ka natakot.

So help me God.

Kumusta ka na Trap

Kumusta ka na? Chronicles

When you’re hurt, chances are, your friends will instantly pop unto your screen and ask you, “Kamusta ka na?”

You might feel privileged, knowing that, at least, some people will cheer you when you are totally messed up.

However, before you answer that question, ask yourself first if the person who asks that is a REAL friend. Why? Because not all people who ask you that question really cares. (Aww. It’s a disappointing reality that we must deal with.)

Not all people care. Some ask for the sake of asking that question. Some ask because they have nothing to do. Some ask because they want to see you suffer. This could be the most pessimist post I have written so forgive me. (Life for me, lately, isn’t sweet. Haha.)

I just want to remind everyone that not all people really care, and THAT’S OKAY. You do not need the complete validation coming from mere acquaintances.

Sometimes, answering “Okay lang,” to that question is enough. This phrase contains magic that will eventually dissolve follow-up questions.

 

Stick to your Real Friends. 🙂

Here’s what you can do: STICK TO THE REAL ONES. Real friends are not those who sacrifice everything for you. No one can do that (only Christ, or your family).

Real friends are those people who will make you feel everything’s gonna be fine. They can sing chants that magically calm you. They can make you feel hopeful and cheerful no matter what the situation is.

Real friends may be far from you, but distance does not matter for them. Time > Distance is their mantra. They will find or make time for you.

Real friends do not tolerate your wrongdoings. They are frank with their opinion. They remind what’s best for you. They certainly tell you what they think is more beneficial and morally right.

Lastly, REAL FRIENDS pray for you and lead you closer to God. These people bless you with the assurance coming from God. They may not be perfect but they do accept the fact that God has already saved and healed them. They will never ever judge you instead they do understand your situation and your feelings.

 

Finale

This post is just a mere realization about my life lately. I don’t know why I only have to realize it just now. Maybe, I was so amiable and gregarious to open myself up to the people whom I think I can trust. Huhuhu. Loyal and faithful people are so rare these days. If you have found yours, keep it. It’s totally a rare find.

 

Musings on Solo Traveling

It was my first time to travel solo, last February 22-23, 2019, in Iloilo and Guimaras. I never expected to learn so much from it. It brought me back to my roots. It dragged me to my former self. I remembered that I am just a mere being in this huge world.

I agree with what Abbey Sy said, “Traveling humbles you and makes you realize that you’re just a tiny dot in this big world.”

These are my musings after I traveled solo.

When you travel solo, you travel with the real you.

You don’t have to pretend who you are. You don’t act the way people expect you to. You are just being yourself. No pretentions and spices called lies. Every single thing you do along defines who you actually are. Everything is just so natural.

As I travel, I realized that I am still the KIM who I used to be. A kind of person who laughs, jokes, giggles, and stares at the window side the whole time.

You discover your strength as you journey.

By traveling solo, you spontaneously move with yourself. You rely on yourself more. You learn to become more independent. You stretch yourself to your limits. You finally appreciate how strong you are. Of course, no one is perfectly strong, but at least it’s good to acknowledge that you are a work in progress.

It’s funny how I really cannot place my bag inside the plane. I couldn’t just reach it, but still, I tried. Then, I failed. Fortunately, somebody helped me. I guess, our strength does not only rely on ourselves but in accepting that we need help, too.

You get to know your heart.

As you immerse in your deep thoughts, you are able to listen to your heart even more. You learn to value the simple miracles that happen to your life. You realize how precious a single second is. You also hear the voices inside your heart that you never heard before. You encounter thoughts and dreams that you never encountered.

It’s weird, but I laughed an hour after my solo bus trip in Iloilo. My heart just fluttered. That trip served as a date with myself. Sleeping alone was challenging for me. My heart wandered, but I told it to be still, calm, and be in peace. Thank God, it did.

You value tripod, monopod, and camera-friendly spots.

It’s really hard to take photos all by yourself. You need to strategize on where to place your camera. You need to adjust on the light. You also need to humble yourself to ask somebody to take your photo. I guess, it’s a new learning I wouldn’t forget. 🙂

But then again, before I did this. I still planned my itinerary ahead of time. I made sure that the places I would be visiting are safe, and in public. I avoided remote areas. I also never stayed late at night. Lastly, I never forgot to pray for a safe journey. 🙂